Baby’s growth in the first six months
We are back together again. We continue with the next stage in the baby’s growth, with the first and wonderful six months of our son’s life. You will observe the value of exercises with your son that will favor his correct harmonic and neurological development, the basis of all future learning that he will develop in his life. So that we understand the importance of this stage, I give you an example that in my father’s courses and schools I usually comment:
We want to make ourselves a beautiful home. We buy the land, we design the structure, the interior, we look at the furniture, the decoration … but the most important thing will be to lay down good foundations so that the structure is safely supported, because it is the house of our life, of our future. It will not make sense for us to focus on the details if the fundamentals are not solid or stable. This is the parallel with our son’s first six months. It is the stage of consolidating the maturation bases of its development. The stage that we will name NEONATAL.
Emotional ties to the baby in the first six months
In this period, it is important not only to carry out the exercises but also how we carry them out. Necessary from affection, love, respect, patience, tolerance, stability, and passion.
Travelers, let’s not forget that it is also the stage of our doubts, insecurities, fears. Do not be surprised by my words. Our son will cry and we will not know why. Since he does not speak, he will not be able to communicate his inner world, his discomforts. Companions, it is the stage of gas, colic, diarrhea, constipation, trouble sleeping … endless situations. But never, never forget to feel love. Remember the exercises that I wrote in previous articles.
In this neonatal stage, the emotional relationship with our child is essential. Babies are experts in emotional perception. It is time to establish emotional ties in the growth of our baby based on affection, affection, and love.
Aim and remember:
- Our tone and volume of voice should be sweet, slow, loving.
- Our relationship with our jewel must be based on physical contact.
- Let’s do the bathroom with him/her.
- Let us feel his heart in our skin, the touch of his skin.
- Dad, enjoy this experience.
- If it is important and special for you to feel these sensations, imagine yourself for him/her.
- If we feel nervous, he will be nervous; if we love him, he will love us.
- Caress him, sing to him, whisper to him … yes, from the most sincere love.
- Every second that you are with him, show him and make him feel.
Travelers, let us not fall into the error of, as we see him as fragile and small, to think that he does not find out, that he does not grasp. Feel EVERYTHING. We are his dad/mom, pass it on to him!
The responsibility of parents in the growth of the baby
Dads, moms, I told you in my first article that throughout my more than 30 years of experience guiding families and in my clinical experience, whenever I have asked future dads how they imagined their children when they grew up, they have ALWAYS appeared wonderful answers like:
- With high self-esteem.
- Social, with values.
- Succeeding in life.
- And endless phrases that could fill countless pages of this article.
And I assure you that these must be the answers we must give, but dear fellow travelers, this implies a beautiful responsibility as parents. It is the same if we have had a bad day at work, we have gotten angry, we are nervous … and a wide variety of emotional states typical of being an adult. He does not deserve that we give him these feelings, these sensations.
If little by little we are seeing the importance of this first stage of child development in the growth of the baby, we will understand that the aforementioned fundamentals must be more than ever from LOVE.
Many times as adults we lose perspective easily, although we will never recognize it, we are selfish. We will not want selfishness for our children. If we observe it in him/her we will recriminate it. But dear fellows, have we observed ourselves?
Let’s stop for a second in our journey: “ tomorrow, darling, I have an important meeting, if she cries tonight, get up.” “Love, I’ve been with him all day and I haven’t been able to rest for a second, I’m devastated …” three in the morning, I cry from our irritable jewel, …
It is not an invented example, the fruit of my imagination. It is a common reality. And travelers, a situation like this ends in tension, nervousness, screaming, despair … do you remember now all my exercises from previous articles? Perhaps now is a good time to remember them. What fault is our treasure to cry? Perhaps we think he does it on purpose?
This is where the adult is selfish. How we grow as people when we can put it back to sleep from tranquility and our deepest love! And a small nuance: those people who are not reflected with my example, my deepest admiration.
Let us never forget that our son/daughter will make us better people and only in this way, our jewel will be better and more beautiful every day. Dads, moms, we must be the mirror of our children, from our weaknesses, insecurities … but also from our deepest and most sincere … LOVE.
Dear travelers, as a guide, as a parent, as a person, I assure you … how beautiful it is to be father/mother!
Remember that we are simply in the first stage of child development, they are the first steps of the journey, of the wonderful journey of giving life.
Originally published at https://kidsrush.com on August 20, 2020.