Sexual Abuse: How to know if your child is a victim of this?

Identify the signs of sexual abuse

See if your child appears unusually discreet

Identify signs of regressing into childish behavior

  • bedwetting (after an age at which this should no longer happen)
  • temper tantrums and aggressive behavior for no reason
  • the fact that the child clings to you and cries when you have to leave him after dropping him off at school or nursery.

Focus on nightmarish issues and other issues related to sleep at night

Watch him see if he’s exhibiting inappropriate behavior while he’s having fun

  • For example, a child who is sexually harassed may inappropriately touch a doll or toy or display this behavior towards another child.
  • A child may also use words or phrases of a sexual nature that you have never taught them.
  • It is normal for small children to touch their private parts because naturally they are curious about their body and would like to explore it. However, if you have the impression that they are exhibiting adult behaviors while doing so (for example, masturbating, children usually do not touch their private parts for pleasure), this must be able to alarm you.

Notice the personality changes

Observe your child’s reaction to people and when they are in different places

  • Some children are naturally shy, but you need to be able to tell the difference between shyness and normal fear in your child around someone.
  • See if your child displays a particular loathing for a specific place, such as school, piano lessons, a parent’s house, etc.

Check the physical signs if you think your child is sexually assaulted

  • pain, discoloration, bleeding, or discharge in the mouth, genitals, or anus;
  • pain while urinating and during bowel movements;
  • marks in the area of ​​the genitals.

Identify the difference between normal sexual behavior and abnormal sexual behavior

  • For example, normal sexual behavior in children 0 to 5 years old can be described as follows [4] :
  • the use of childish language to talk about private parts of the body;
  • showing curiosity about how children are born;
  • touching or rubbing their genitals;
  • an obvious curiosity about their genitalia.

Talk to your child

Help your child feel secure while you have a chat

  • Do not bring up the topic of sexual abuse in front of anyone you suspect of child abuse, including direct family members.
  • It is important to be impartial and reassuring throughout the discussion. Don’t be contemptuous or try to shed some light on certain things or get angry, even if you are angry about the situation and not at your child.

Ask if someone is touching him in an inappropriate way

  • If your child says yes, encourage them to tell you more. Keep asking questions without passing judgment on their answers.
  • Note that sometimes sexual abuse does not leave a bad impression on the child. Using phrases like, “Did someone hurt you?” Or “Did someone touch you in a bad way?” Your child may not understand. Be more specific.

Ask him questions about the unusual attitudes he is showing

Talk to your child about the concept of secrecy

Tell your child that he can confide in you

Protect your child

Know what sexual harassment or abuse is

  • touching the genitals of a child for sexual pleasure;
  • forcing a child to touch the genitals of another person (an adult or another child);
  • showing pornography to a child;
  • taking inappropriate images of a child;
  • showing a child the genitals of an adult or encouraging him to watch people perform sexual acts.

Teach your child that parts of the body are private

Create a relationship of trust with your child

Get into the habit of chatting every day

Be involved in your child’s school education and be present at the activities in which he participates

Act on whatever information your child gives you

  • Move your child away from the person.
  • Call emergency services and report the abuser to local authorities. Call the toll-free number reserved for cases of child sexual harassment (United States Of America): 312–663–3520 or Email: for more information.
  • Have your child followed by a doctor. It is important to take your child to a doctor to see if he has been physically injured.
  • Take your child to a counseling center. The physical trauma engendered by the sexual abuse suffered by the child generally leads to psychological trauma.

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