Teach your child to dream, not to fear

Muhammad Usman Babar
4 min readOct 20, 2020
Photo by Michał Parzuchowski on Unsplash

Teaching your children to dream does not mean encouraging them not to keep their feet on the ground so that they cannot see life objectively and learn responsibility. It means allowing them to have dreams they want to achieve, and feel free to create their horizons. Growing up where there is fear creates insecurity and insecurity that puts shackles on your child’s heart and feet.

Fear leads to pain and sores and is never formative.

Although none of us are experts in pedagogy or child psychology, we know that all children have a need and that there is no better answer to this need than what is offered from the heart: to be close to them, an outstanding guide who wants to invest in their happiness and never in their fears. Today we want to dig a little deeper into this interesting topic: the value of educating in “dreaming”

Take care of your children — they are very fragile…

The brain of a child is eager to learn, experience, perceive, feel… and to dream. Their neuroplasticity is simply amazing, and it remains so until they are around four or five years old. Everything that happens during this early childhood leaves a lasting impression on their brain. Therefore, during this time you must care about that bond and promote a healthy and unique affection, where your child feels loved and safe.

So what do we mean by the title up there? Are children fragile? In a way, yes — for the following reasons:

  • A child’s first life experiences can determine their future development.
  • For example, a child who does not respond when crying tends to grow up with significantly higher stress levels.
  • A baby who is not held, cuddled with or felt the body of his mother and affection from the father or others will not establish the same number of neural connections as infants who receive continuous attention and touch.

Children are more vulnerable than you think because they interpret the world according to the stimuli they receive. That is why it is so important to be very careful.

Positive reinforcement, illusion, and dreaming…

Educating your children takes time, patience, and a lot of wishful thinking on your part. Something that happens very often, however, is that doubt creeps in. Will I be a good mother? Will I be a good father to my child?

Do not stress over such issues. Sometimes the parent who is controlled by his instincts is the most successful. This is because their instincts are governed by love, as well as an intimate connection of affection for the child that no one else can understand.

  • Schooling without fear. The first thing a child needs that is already open to their surroundings, that has started to walk, talk and interact with their surroundings, is the security that hands are there for them and words that encourage them to explore, discover, play and have fun.
  • A child’s life must be much like a game. It is a way to transform their reality and understand it as it goes along. Encourage these moments and share them.
  • Create dreams with the help of toys, books, and play on the streets, and soil your hands with clay, soil, and flowers…
  • The more experiences and conversations you have, the more dreams you give your children. If you just set up barriers, fill their lives with silence, and say “Do not be so annoying, not now,” or “I do not have time right now,” then the child will eventually grow up afraid of feeling unimportant.

The best gift you can give your child is “time”.

Understand and help your child face his fears

The world is very complex for a child, and even if you care about every aspect and detail, as a parent it is impossible to cover all aspects of their lives.

  • When they go to school, they can be bullied and develop certain fears and anxieties … it is important to be vigilant.
  • Do not hesitate to set aside time each day to talk to your child about how the day went.
  • Before going to bed, for example, you can have a relaxed conversation without judging, and use your intuition and give them a place where they feel they can talk.

It does not matter if they are 4 years old or 14. They always need your help. You have to be there for them.